Scapegoats

Many people go through many things in life and I believe they should use those things to build their character and learn from them. This is purely personal opinion and I cant tell people how to live their lives nor how to view their lives. I am not one to judge whatsoever because I am not innocent by far. Yet, I do have a strong opinion when people try to use tragic or drastic happenings in their life in order to compensate and justify their present actions.

In no way am I undermining the severity of single parent homes, rape, molestation, etc. But when people use these circumstances to justify their actions which are knowingly wrong and unaccepted, I get angry.

Too many times I have heard people excuse their promiscuous ways because they have endured some type of sexual assault. I think this entire thought is ludicrous. Being raped and/or molested is not a good feeling. I know both acts first hand from a very young age. Afterwards, I had no desire to be with a man because I was violated by one. To be a whore and feel addicted to sex is not a product of rape and molestation. I feel like people just use that as a scapegoat, when in actuality their is no justification for being a whore>no matter the gender.

I am also a product of a single parent home, and in no way am I dependent on a man for anything. My mother is a strong woman and because I was raised by her only, it makes me want to be just as strong. When girls use the fact that either their mother or father was absent from the home as an excuse to "find love in all the wrong places" is beyond me.

As I stated, people should use the challenges they have faced and treat them as learning experiences. You owe it to yourself to not allow life's ups and downs to be the downfall of who you are today. Every experience is a molding one, but the choice to allow it to be a positive mold or a negative mold, lies completely on you!