Scapegoats

Many people go through many things in life and I believe they should use those things to build their character and learn from them. This is purely personal opinion and I cant tell people how to live their lives nor how to view their lives. I am not one to judge whatsoever because I am not innocent by far. Yet, I do have a strong opinion when people try to use tragic or drastic happenings in their life in order to compensate and justify their present actions.

In no way am I undermining the severity of single parent homes, rape, molestation, etc. But when people use these circumstances to justify their actions which are knowingly wrong and unaccepted, I get angry.

Too many times I have heard people excuse their promiscuous ways because they have endured some type of sexual assault. I think this entire thought is ludicrous. Being raped and/or molested is not a good feeling. I know both acts first hand from a very young age. Afterwards, I had no desire to be with a man because I was violated by one. To be a whore and feel addicted to sex is not a product of rape and molestation. I feel like people just use that as a scapegoat, when in actuality their is no justification for being a whore>no matter the gender.

I am also a product of a single parent home, and in no way am I dependent on a man for anything. My mother is a strong woman and because I was raised by her only, it makes me want to be just as strong. When girls use the fact that either their mother or father was absent from the home as an excuse to "find love in all the wrong places" is beyond me.

As I stated, people should use the challenges they have faced and treat them as learning experiences. You owe it to yourself to not allow life's ups and downs to be the downfall of who you are today. Every experience is a molding one, but the choice to allow it to be a positive mold or a negative mold, lies completely on you!

Same Sex Marriage

I have a friend whom I have had the privilege of growing up with since 4th grade. She has always worn the title of flirtatious and was slated for the superlative in our senior year of high school. She was one was always willing to try sexual acts with any dude that looked like he had it going on. The term that most considered her was "hoe" or "whore". But friendship lasts through thick and thin. I never judged her lifestyle although I never condoned it as well. Big shocker came when this friend of mine revealed that she was gay in summer of 08. No one could understand how such a promiscuous girl could be gay. Just as she took her heterosexuality to the edge, she has done the same with her homosexuality.

Her and girlfriend, who is also a friend of mine, have a pretty decent relationship. They are so engulfed with love and cant seem to get enough of each other. They have expressed their love for each other in huge monetary forms and even huger non-monetary forms. You would view them as the perfect lesbian couple. They do basically everything together and her girlfriend has managed to even take my place on many occasions as the best friend.

While sitting down one evening with the two of them, I began to ask questions about their relationship. I asked them how far did they see themselves going and I was utterly disgusted when my friend of 12 years told me "I am going to marry a man and she will just be my mistress." Both smiled in concurrence with the statement as I sat baffled and dismayed. I couldn't believe my friend was preparing to cheat on her husband with a woman ALREADY. How can one be so ignorant? My next question was well if you love each other so much, why wont you two just get married. They both just snickered as if I was the dumb one in the situation. I got a response later stating that "Two women aren't supposed to get married."

Well, they got me there! I am in no way against same sex marriage but I do have Christian values which believe that God put man on earth for a woman, not another man. I snickered back at the two as I realized how stupid they sounded. Since you know that MARRIAGE isn't made for two women or two men, why do you to continue on in a RELATIONSHIP in the same forbidden manner? One cannot possibly believe that God would be okay with the homosexual dating, but not okay with homosexual marriage. It's either all or none!

I'm sure there are those who probably have a long list of reasons WHY same sex marriage should be allowed. My only justification for such an act is the idea of freedom. People should be able to whatever they want to do. So if marrying the same sex makes you happy, GO FOR IT!